To all women out there: don’t take work home! It’ll make you feel guilty and stress you out. Surprisingly, it’s not true for men. Surprisingly, indeed… Anyway, to all bosses out there: let men take work home but leave women alone!
It’s science, everyone. Precise, scrupulous, always correct science (I don’t know why I involuntarily rolled my eyes just now…). Let’s regroup. Yes, it’s indeed science. Not simple ramblings of a woman looking for any excuse not to read work-related emails or texts, or not to answer “emergency” phone calls from the boss. Not that this very woman doesn’t spent considerable amount of time for this very thing – how to make herself unavailable for all this work-related crap when it’s time to enjoy other aspects of life. But now she has scientific data to help her.
Scientific data published in a March issue of the Journal of Health and Social Behavior (get it; you’ll need a solid proof for future “negotiations” with your boss) by researchers from University of Toronto, led by a male scientist Dr. Paul Glavin. See, it’s all unbiased – a man signed on it!
What did the researchers do? In a national survey of American workers, they asked study participants how often they were contacted outside the workplace by phone, e-mail, or text about work-related matters and “how they felt about it”. Authors of the study found that women who were contacted frequently by supervisors, co-workers, or clients reported higher levels of psychological distress. Men didn’t care much at all.
Since scientists always dig dip, they postulated that women were more distressed because they weren’t able to handle their family responsibilities with frequent work contact as well as man do. They were wrong, of course. It turned out that women are able to juggle their work and family lives just as well as men. Dah… It turned out that women, unlike men, feel guilty when dealing with work issues at home because they want to pay more attention to their family. Dah… This guilt “seems to be at the heart of their distress.” Really? You need scientific studies to realize that?
Whatever. At least we now have scientific proof for something that’s been rather obvious. So, to summarize. Women want to take care of their kids, husbands included, after work and responding to any work-related stuff makes them feel guilty and, thus, stressed out. So, don’t make them do it. Men, in general (and remember, there are always exceptions to the rule – like few of my dear male friends), don’t feel guilty when paying more attention to the work-related rubbish than to their wives and kids. So, let them work their asses off at home.
Unfortunately, there’s one important omission in these studies. Single-without-kids women. What about them? The study rudely didn’t take this particular variable into account. Well, let me do it for them, then.
Single-without-kids women can’t deal with work crap at home cause they worry about starting the family in this kind of environment. It’s stressing them out that they may be forced to pay less attention to their future little life form(s) running around and the bigger one not doing anything helpful. Therefore, in order to keep social balance and breeding intact, you can’t make single women work at home. If you ask me, all of these “not working at home” issue is even more crucial for single-without-kids than married (or not; whatever floats your boat)-but-definitely-with-kids women. It’s about future of our civilization.
On a side note. If you’re a woman but don’t want to ever start the family – lie about it. All of this is to serve one purpose, and one purpose only: to have a good excuse for protecting your after-work life.
Just one thing left. To convince everyone at work about the importance and the need for practical incorporation of this scientific finding…